Start the conversation – Overcoming the Silent Killer

Last night I was going through my Twitter feed when I came across a story about a young Biritsh reality TV star who had unfortunately passed away at the age of only 26.

Although I had never been a fan of the work he had done previously with the show he found fame on, I was absolutely devastated by this news.

26 is no age to die. No matter who you are.

The more I read on, the more I felt I truly understood his story.

He had been suffering inwardly from what seems to be a very silent yet prominent killer in this day and age…Depression.

He had been given a persona from the show, something he had to take on board, live with, and act as though was who he really was on a daily basis. It wasn’t until the news of his death, that you heard about who he truly was on the inside.

Perception isn’t always truth and Reality TV isn’t the reality we are in. It’s made and altered to fit what it’s aiming to be and for the audience it wishes to keep.

And just for the record, this is not the only account of this we have seen in the news, and unfortunately it will probably not be the last either. In fact, under a year ago, there was another case with a very similar issue, and from the exact same show.

What does this say for the way we treat others? These people were treated like their characters not for the people they are outside this life.

How can this be? How can we allow this to continue to happen?

It doesn’t matter if you are in the public eye or not. Something desperately needs to change!

One major issue – these people feel as though they are silenced. They fear speaking out in case of backlash or people just not getting it.

Trust me, I have been there. Opening up was the one of the hardest things I thought I would or could ever do, to the point that the only way I found I could do so was through writing…hence this blog.

Mental Illness continues to take lives.

I’m ready for things to change. Are you?

If you are struggling or if you know someone who is, please, I ask you now, don’t hide away. Talk to someone. There are people who really can and want to help.

Don’t suffer in silence. Start the conversation!

Chloe Lauren x

Why it’s really OK to take time for yourself! | Updated 2019

Hey Guys,

Do you ever find yourselves going through each day, feeling as though the entire world is literally on top of your shoulders?

It’s pushing you down further and further? And no matter what you have on your plate already, you somehow end up adding on more than you know you can handle.

That’s when the moment hits you. You’re at a point where you seem to have completely burned out?

Great!

Maybe the above is a slight exaggeration, but hopefully you all understand the point I am trying to make. Or should I say stress to you?

Whether you work full time, are currently going through your school years, or even nearing retirement, it can feel as though life is really getting the best of you at times. Am I right?

For some this may appear to be the norm and something you think you are able to handle, and to that I say, that is truly wonderful to hear, but for others, it can cause a flurry of emotions and confusion to take over and find a home within our minds.

These usually takes the form of stress, anxiety and worry for whatever is to come. I’d like to say it’s only an occassional occurance but that may not always be the case either.

That is not to say that they can’t be tamed.

The point is, no matter how you take and accept these issues, it’s important to remember that it is ok to take time out for yourself to gain your own peace of mind, however it is you do that.

For me I read a book or write what is going through my mind on my blog. It calms my mind and keeps me in high spirits when I need to get away from what is going on around me.

Ask yourself…what could you do right now to take yourself away from things and put yourself at ease?

‘You must make time daily to care for your mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health.’

Lailah Gifty Akita

Just as the quote highlights above, it’s more than important to allow yourself time out of your day, and out of your schedule to sit back, relax and just be.

Let yourself have that time. It’s not too much to ask.

Even if only ends up being only 5 minutes here and there to get your mind in order and take a quick breather, that’s completely OK!

Personally, this was something I struggled with for quite some time, but from my own experience of this, and how it made me feel deep down inside, I have taken a real stance for myself and to regain control for my own sanity.

With my full time job, the volunteer work I do on the side, my Social Media/Blog management, as well as taking on those extra little favours for friends, I found I really needed to cut back somewhere. Not forever, but just as long as I needed in order to find a more suitable balance to suit.

Letting go to begin with did prove very difficult, especially as what I had been doing previously was what I was used too, but the more I would do so, the easier it became and the happier I am feeling now as a result.

For the first time in what seems like forever, there is a real sense of freedom. It’s truly amazing. I feel unstoppable.

Never be afraid to cut back. Your Mental Health is one of the most important things in your life. Don’t compromise for anything or anyone.

Take time for you. It’s always ok!

What do you say?

Oh How Life Changes!

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Hey Guys,

We are now coming towards the middle of March and the year is well underway already, but it’s not too late to say that I believe this year is going to be a great one for me in terms of personal growth and that is not me trying to brag, but letting you know that things can change for the better.

Just let me explain and you will see.

First of all, I have been in my job now for 7 months. That has really flown by, hasn’t it?

In fact, it’s not only a job, it’s something I truly love and am actually quite good at.

I remember letting you all in on my journey to getting the position, to telling you about my first month update and now it has been over half a year.

In that time I have learned so much, and have really expanded my skills, opening myself up to new opportunities along the way.

It’s definitely true what they say, that when the real world hits you, it does truly hit you like a tonne of bricks and you know what? You don’t always realise to begin with. But the thing is, it isn’t a negative thing, but rather the complete opposite, it is exactly what should happen and I think I am really beginning to grasp that now.

Let’s look back a few years ago, to the girl you first came to know. She was lost, unsure of herself, and not happy with where her life was heading.

Jump forward a few years, and that same girl is working full time, volunteering and getting involved with several projects with Church and Charitable groups as well as still managing to blog on the side. I have really shocked myself.

It’s as though my life has turned a full 180 degrees and I am on the path I am supposed to be on, or at least that is how it feels right now.

There is absolutely no telling where I am going to end up in my life in a year, 2 years or even 10 years time, but what is for sure, is that I am more prepared for any changes or unexpected moments which may come my way.

I am excited for the next chapter in my life. There are some great life challenges on the way which I can’t wait to face. Bring it on because for once in my life, I feel ready!

To any of you that are worried right now, feeling lost or not sure what is next for you, just remember things can change. Nothing bad lasts forever, no matter how it seems now. It takes a little hard work but you will reap the benefits soon enough! Surround yourselves with positive people and build yourself up. Bit by bit, a difference will be seen.

Bit corny, but totally true.

See you soon,

Chloe Lauren x

The Reason I Jump | Book Review

21259527 Title: The Reason I Jump

Author: Naoki Higashida

Publisher: Sceptre


‘A story never before told and a memoir to help change our understanding of the world around us. 13-year-old Naoki Higashida’s astonishing, empathetic book takes us into the mind of a boy with severe autism. With an introduction by David Mitchell, author of the global phenomenon, Cloud Atlas, and translated by his wife, KA Yoshida.’


Review:

This is a hard book to review, because of it being based around the idea of autism, as well as there being quite a bit of controversy around it, but I thought I would give it a go anyway.

The book was written from the perspective of a 13 year old boy suffering with autism. Originally I didn’t know this, so I read the book thinking it was actually from the mind of an adult. In fact, I literally only just found out that it was from a 13 year old, and now I am wondering how a 13 year old could have written this book, especially to the level it was at, but then again, some people are very good at what they do, and in this case it is writing. Still, I am slightly skeptical, because of reading other reviews prior to writing this. I don’t know what to think now.

Every chapter is set as a frequently asked question revolving around the idea of autism, with which the author answers in as best a way possible. There is a lot of important information which I found to be seriously interesting, as I didn’t really know anything about autism before. However, it may not be the full story, as it just a memoir, meaning that it is mainly what has happened in his life, and how he has felt with it. There are obviously people similar, but autism is a large spectrum so it will obviously vary dependent upon where on the spectrum a person is.

The information may be of interest, but even the author does not know to the full extent why certain things happen, but then again, who really knows how everything works? Saying that, I still managed to learn from what was given to you. The only way is up when you don’t know much on a subject, so even a little, was a lot.

This is a book I am still trying to figure out. I am stuck in the middle with my feelings towards it, but if you want to read it, there is a lot you can get out of it, but don’t take everything as the be all and all. There is always more to a story, than just one person’s view of it.

Chloe Lauren x


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