Important Things I learned in 2018!

We are now officially halfway to Christmas, meaning the real celebrations are coming quicker than we thought. I mean seriously, when did we get to December, let alone past August? Am I right?

Anyway, now that we are at December 12th, it’s time for me to jump into Blogmas action as I mentioned earlier in the month.

However, to begin with I am going to start with a contemplation and thought over the last year. Hope that is ok with you? I just wanted to take pride in the things I learned this year.

Things I learned in 2018:

  • I don’t need to compare myself to others. We are all on different paths and what they are doing is different to what I am doing now.
  • It’s ok to say no sometimes instead of burning out and being exhausted all of the time.
  • Sometimes it’s ok to take time out for yourself to de-stress and take a breather whenever needed.
  • I need to give myself more credit instead of doubting what I do or any ideas I may have.
  • Following from this, to also have more confidence in my abilities as a whole.
  • I have more of an understanding now of where I want to be in the next couple of years than I have previously.
  • But most importantly just to be happier and more content with where things are going. I am truly excited!

So there you have it a few of the lessons I learned this year that I am so glad I came across this year.

In a way they were like gifts hence why I included them in my Blogmas posts. Get the link now?

Finally, just a quick addition. If I miss a day, please don’t hate me, it’s just based on what I said above about feeling exhausted from everything else. I will try though.

Have a great evening!

What are the things you learned this year?

Chloe Lauren

3 Simple But Effective Lessons That Changed My Life

Hey Guys,

It recently dawned on me that in a little over 3 months, I turn 21. I mean most days it’s hard enough to just comprehend that I am 20, let alone turning 21. Just the sound of it somehow doesn’t seem right to me nor has it completely clicked with me yet. In fact, it is weird how quickly times moving forward as each day passes by.

One thing I know for sure though, is that in such a short period of time I have been through, and faced so much, as well as having what I consider to be some extremely crucial and life defining moments which have helped craft me into the person I am right now.

Although at the time I felt completely beaten by them, I am so grateful for those moments. Each weary step backwards later lead to five giant leaps forward, or at least, that’s how it feels now looking back.

So in light of this, I wanted to share with you the lessons I wish I’d have known previously and hopefully help some people who are in the position I was once in.

Here we go:

1) YOU HAVE TO FIGHT PAST ADVERSITY!

One of the main things I have had to really come to grips with, over the last few years especially, is that anything you want, you can’t leave it to chance, you have to really fight for it, even if seems difficult and so far away.

It’s never going to be plain sailing and if I am honest, I am so glad it isn’t!

For example, when I was job searching. During the entire process, I was still struggling with anxiety. It was truly prevalent and there were times when I just wanted to fully give up. I felt stuck and like a failure.

I remember sending out application after application and even though I was getting interviews, I let myself down quite often.

Then…reality hit. It may be tough, but if I didn’t push through I would never move forward.

So that’s just what I did. I made a bold move, sent out an email to a company in the local area and to my surprise got a reply almost instantly, and had the interview the very same day.

Imagine if I had just done that from day one! Oh well. I got there in the end!

2) LIFE WILL THROW SOME INTERESTING CURVE BALLS

It doesn’t matter what you do, where you go, or what plans you think you have, life will find a way to throw something your way which may either help, or be an initial hindrance to you, making you feel truly defeated at times, that is…if you let it!

There were moments in the past when I thought things were heading in a certain direction, but without notice were diverted, throwing me completely off course, so what I originally assumed to be a sure thing, ended up on a completely different path.

Although, yes, this could sometimes be for the better, it never stopped that flurry of confusion and fear creeping up and taking over the thoughts within my mind. I never did know how to handle change, but that’s just the thing, whether we like it or not, just like the song says, change is going to come, we just have to learn to deal with it.

3) IT’S OK NOT TO BE LIKED BY EVERYONE!

This one in particular has always been such a HUGE issue for me.

Growing up, I always had this want to get on with everyone and for people to want the same with me, but unfortunately it never ended up being the case and the more I began to realise, the more it messed with my head.

It made me anxious and overly self conscious, to the point that I would fall in tears each and every time. I would constantly worry that there was something seriously wrong with me and that I had to change who I was in order to be liked by my peers.

I had fully convinced myself that I was the problem. What I hadn’t considered is that maybe I didn’t actually need their validation.Why did I value it so much anyway?

Over time I have had to teach myself that I am good enough and that if people don’t like me, that is completely fine, they don’t have too. I’m going to be me regardless!

So there you go. Three lessons I am thankful for learning. It was nerve wracking writing this, but hope my story helps you.

Chloe Lauren

Why Keeping A Journal Will Improve Your Life!

Hey Guys,

I love writing. It’s always been such a HUGE passion of mine, although recently not being able to do so as much for myself as I probably would want too, mainly because my mind is usually on my clients and what they need writing up for their business.

However, like I said not too long ago, I am returning to blogging. The place I once shared the fears I had and the goings on in my life. Although I am not in the same place I once was, it was nice to get these things out and keep track of my life and thought process.

So I have decided it’s time to begin writing in my journal. I have owned one for what feels like forever but never really pursued it for as long as I should have. I mean, there is so much I could write about, and it’s so interesting to see how things change throughout the year. From what I can tell, now seems as good a time as any!

Oh and just to convince myself and maybe you reading just that bit further, here is why keeping a journal could change your life.


Reasons To Keep A Journal:

Keep Track Of Your Thoughts

As you begin to write about your day and your life, you will learn more about yourself and the person you are, as well as begin to see what to improve on, or what you have that is great, that you just don’t give yourself credit for.

Become More Organised

Journals could be such an amazing place to list things you want, whether goals for your future, or just what you want to do in the day. Maybe you have things you want to remember, or think more about, like for me, that would be quotes to keep me going, or pieces of scripture that I want to keep fresh in my mind.

Improve Your Writing

Like with anything, the more you do something, the better you will become at it. So basically, the more you write, the better the writer you will become. Teachers in primary schools say it best, ‘Practice makes perfect”. It won’t only be the way you write, but also your creativity and imagination towards what you are writing. It makes what you put on the paper that much more AWESOME!

Chloe Lauren x

Yeah…I’m Back!

Hey Guys,

It’s been a while since I have said that, I know! I’m not even sure if I will be of interest to anyone now after being absent for what feels like forever. I just needed time away from this blog, to gather my thoughts, gain that passion once again and find myself.

It’s not that I was regressing because I wasn’t, but rather I felt stuck for a while and this felt forced, which I never wanted.

But here I am. I am back. Can you believe it? I certainly can’t. I just had this sense that I should write to you all like the old days. I think it all began yesterday. I was talking to someone where I work and it reminded me why I enjoyed writing in the first place and it really made me realise…I truly miss it.

What a revelation! And just like that, the spark seems to have returned.

I will be changing the name of this blog as that isn’t the person I am anymore and I refuse to feel that way. I am moving forward and can’t wait to share this stage of my journey with you all.

Finally, just like I used to say…

See you all soon (and I do mean soon),

Chloe Lauren x