The Relaunch No One Knew They Needed!

This honestly feels a little odd. It truly has been quite some time, hasn’t it?

In fact i’m almost certain it has been a year now since I was mustering the courage to write a post like this.

Like they say though, better late than never.

You know, that age old excuse we all think helps us get away with anything we find ourselves being late on.

But with everything going on around us right now, keeping us in a feeling of swimming down to new unknown depths, but with blurred vision, I needed something to keep me somewhat sane. If that’s at all possible.

It’s very easy to get lost in it all. To fall into this trap of sudden panic and allow the hectic clutter of noise sourrounding us all to take over.

Unfortunately, for a little while at least, I did.

However now, i’ve given my mind back something worth concentrating on again when I’m not having fun with my own job.

Don’t worry. This isn’t just going to be a passing moment for me. I’d been planning on making my return for a while. I had to. I needed to.

This blog and everything that initially came with it has been ingrained in the corner of memories, burning into me, pushing me to pick it back up.

Right now just seemed as good a time as any.

Saying that, I assumed it would be difficult. Jumping head first back into something I didn’t even think I would be able to do anymore. I worried that no one would even remember I was ever here.

Thankfully none of that has been the case. It really feels like it always did.

I’m back. As I should be. Yet not everything is or will be as it once was.

Things have changed. I’ve changed.

So what’s different? I know you all desperately want to know so let me just show you before you all EXPLODE with excitement.


First I want to introduce you to the BRAND NEW logo and tagline for Life as Chloe Lauren.

Now i’m no designer, but I really am rather happy with how this turned out.

This simple but effective little sense of fun practically encapsulates what I and this blog are about.

No. Not plain.

Although!


Moving on, we have the entirely new layout of my homepage as an overall concept.

Chloe from years gone by would never have shown her face on this space, or just about anywhere for that matter.

If you were around near the time of this blog being created, and then some time following, you will most likely remember that overly timid side of me.

Now in 2020, Chloe Lauren is not one to shy away. It might look as though I love the camera a bit more than I should. If you’ve seen my Instagram (@lifeaschloelauren) you will definitely know what I mean.


Last but of course never least, my favourite part of this new chapter.

I NOW (FINALLY) OWN THE DOMAIN.

I always thought this should have been a step I took before. People even willed me to do so, but I just didn’t believe in myself the way I should have.

I’ve grown a lot if you couldn’t tell by this overwhelming child like excitement I am exuding right now.

Proud of me?


So there you have it. I have returned. Life as Chloe Lauren has been relaunched.

Are you ready for what is next? I am!

Let the virtual insanity continue.

Chloe Lauren

Start the conversation – Overcoming the Silent Killer

Last night I was going through my Twitter feed when I came across a story about a young Biritsh reality TV star who had unfortunately passed away at the age of only 26.

Although I had never been a fan of the work he had done previously with the show he found fame on, I was absolutely devastated by this news.

26 is no age to die. No matter who you are.

The more I read on, the more I felt I truly understood his story.

He had been suffering inwardly from what seems to be a very silent yet prominent killer in this day and age…Depression.

He had been given a persona from the show, something he had to take on board, live with, and act as though was who he really was on a daily basis. It wasn’t until the news of his death, that you heard about who he truly was on the inside.

Perception isn’t always truth and Reality TV isn’t the reality we are in. It’s made and altered to fit what it’s aiming to be and for the audience it wishes to keep.

And just for the record, this is not the only account of this we have seen in the news, and unfortunately it will probably not be the last either. In fact, under a year ago, there was another case with a very similar issue, and from the exact same show.

What does this say for the way we treat others? These people were treated like their characters not for the people they are outside this life.

How can this be? How can we allow this to continue to happen?

It doesn’t matter if you are in the public eye or not. Something desperately needs to change!

One major issue – these people feel as though they are silenced. They fear speaking out in case of backlash or people just not getting it.

Trust me, I have been there. Opening up was the one of the hardest things I thought I would or could ever do, to the point that the only way I found I could do so was through writing…hence this blog.

Mental Illness continues to take lives.

I’m ready for things to change. Are you?

If you are struggling or if you know someone who is, please, I ask you now, don’t hide away. Talk to someone. There are people who really can and want to help.

Don’t suffer in silence. Start the conversation!

Chloe Lauren x

Why it’s really OK to take time for yourself! | Updated 2019

Hey Guys,

Do you ever find yourselves going through each day, feeling as though the entire world is literally on top of your shoulders?

It’s pushing you down further and further? And no matter what you have on your plate already, you somehow end up adding on more than you know you can handle.

That’s when the moment hits you. You’re at a point where you seem to have completely burned out?

Great!

Maybe the above is a slight exaggeration, but hopefully you all understand the point I am trying to make. Or should I say stress to you?

Whether you work full time, are currently going through your school years, or even nearing retirement, it can feel as though life is really getting the best of you at times. Am I right?

For some this may appear to be the norm and something you think you are able to handle, and to that I say, that is truly wonderful to hear, but for others, it can cause a flurry of emotions and confusion to take over and find a home within our minds.

These usually takes the form of stress, anxiety and worry for whatever is to come. I’d like to say it’s only an occassional occurance but that may not always be the case either.

That is not to say that they can’t be tamed.

The point is, no matter how you take and accept these issues, it’s important to remember that it is ok to take time out for yourself to gain your own peace of mind, however it is you do that.

For me I read a book or write what is going through my mind on my blog. It calms my mind and keeps me in high spirits when I need to get away from what is going on around me.

Ask yourself…what could you do right now to take yourself away from things and put yourself at ease?

‘You must make time daily to care for your mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health.’

Lailah Gifty Akita

Just as the quote highlights above, it’s more than important to allow yourself time out of your day, and out of your schedule to sit back, relax and just be.

Let yourself have that time. It’s not too much to ask.

Even if only ends up being only 5 minutes here and there to get your mind in order and take a quick breather, that’s completely OK!

Personally, this was something I struggled with for quite some time, but from my own experience of this, and how it made me feel deep down inside, I have taken a real stance for myself and to regain control for my own sanity.

With my full time job, the volunteer work I do on the side, my Social Media/Blog management, as well as taking on those extra little favours for friends, I found I really needed to cut back somewhere. Not forever, but just as long as I needed in order to find a more suitable balance to suit.

Letting go to begin with did prove very difficult, especially as what I had been doing previously was what I was used too, but the more I would do so, the easier it became and the happier I am feeling now as a result.

For the first time in what seems like forever, there is a real sense of freedom. It’s truly amazing. I feel unstoppable.

Never be afraid to cut back. Your Mental Health is one of the most important things in your life. Don’t compromise for anything or anyone.

Take time for you. It’s always ok!

What do you say?

3 Simple But Effective Lessons That Changed My Life

Hey Guys,

It recently dawned on me that in a little over 3 months, I turn 21. I mean most days it’s hard enough to just comprehend that I am 20, let alone turning 21. Just the sound of it somehow doesn’t seem right to me nor has it completely clicked with me yet. In fact, it is weird how quickly times moving forward as each day passes by.

One thing I know for sure though, is that in such a short period of time I have been through, and faced so much, as well as having what I consider to be some extremely crucial and life defining moments which have helped craft me into the person I am right now.

Although at the time I felt completely beaten by them, I am so grateful for those moments. Each weary step backwards later lead to five giant leaps forward, or at least, that’s how it feels now looking back.

So in light of this, I wanted to share with you the lessons I wish I’d have known previously and hopefully help some people who are in the position I was once in.

Here we go:

1) YOU HAVE TO FIGHT PAST ADVERSITY!

One of the main things I have had to really come to grips with, over the last few years especially, is that anything you want, you can’t leave it to chance, you have to really fight for it, even if seems difficult and so far away.

It’s never going to be plain sailing and if I am honest, I am so glad it isn’t!

For example, when I was job searching. During the entire process, I was still struggling with anxiety. It was truly prevalent and there were times when I just wanted to fully give up. I felt stuck and like a failure.

I remember sending out application after application and even though I was getting interviews, I let myself down quite often.

Then…reality hit. It may be tough, but if I didn’t push through I would never move forward.

So that’s just what I did. I made a bold move, sent out an email to a company in the local area and to my surprise got a reply almost instantly, and had the interview the very same day.

Imagine if I had just done that from day one! Oh well. I got there in the end!

2) LIFE WILL THROW SOME INTERESTING CURVE BALLS

It doesn’t matter what you do, where you go, or what plans you think you have, life will find a way to throw something your way which may either help, or be an initial hindrance to you, making you feel truly defeated at times, that is…if you let it!

There were moments in the past when I thought things were heading in a certain direction, but without notice were diverted, throwing me completely off course, so what I originally assumed to be a sure thing, ended up on a completely different path.

Although, yes, this could sometimes be for the better, it never stopped that flurry of confusion and fear creeping up and taking over the thoughts within my mind. I never did know how to handle change, but that’s just the thing, whether we like it or not, just like the song says, change is going to come, we just have to learn to deal with it.

3) IT’S OK NOT TO BE LIKED BY EVERYONE!

This one in particular has always been such a HUGE issue for me.

Growing up, I always had this want to get on with everyone and for people to want the same with me, but unfortunately it never ended up being the case and the more I began to realise, the more it messed with my head.

It made me anxious and overly self conscious, to the point that I would fall in tears each and every time. I would constantly worry that there was something seriously wrong with me and that I had to change who I was in order to be liked by my peers.

I had fully convinced myself that I was the problem. What I hadn’t considered is that maybe I didn’t actually need their validation.Why did I value it so much anyway?

Over time I have had to teach myself that I am good enough and that if people don’t like me, that is completely fine, they don’t have too. I’m going to be me regardless!

So there you go. Three lessons I am thankful for learning. It was nerve wracking writing this, but hope my story helps you.

Chloe Lauren